My first marriage-which was a long train wreck-was riddled with codependency. Their is a lot of that in my family history. When I started my relationship with my current husband 9 years ago I was feeling very empowered & in control but funny I was also very manic for a long period of time. In talking with my therapist I am admitting that I have very similar feelings of codependency with my current husband (with me being the one to make all the decisions, take care of things etc.) & the couple of times I left for short visits back to my family he could not function-at all. This is freaking me out-I just looked at the "are you in a codependent relationship" on here & like 10 out of 13 things applied to us-you only need one. I also have looked into dependent personality disorder & think my husband may have this. He is terrified of failure & making even simple decisions-& I feel like I'm the one with all the mental illness I should not have to be responsible for every freaking thing. Anyway just wanted to toss this out here & see if anyone else can relate.