I've really learned so much through my daughter's illness, my concerns for her health and for the life of my grandson.

The arguments, proving points, demanding to be heard, right, wrong, standing my ground and position etc., are what really? Those things would matter if she became more ill? Those things would matter if...?

In my stand on one side, with her so staunchly on the other side, did she come around to my understanding? Did she even absorb anything or did I completely turn her off to hearing what I knew in my adult mother's heart to be "right"?

No, those things don't matter and if the act of my "standing down" does nothing more than hurt my pride, doesn't get me the last word or something, what really have I lost? What more have I lost if I ended all chances of helping her to see what's best for her in her illness?

Sometimes the strongest act is the act of graciousness.

KD