I am going to have to respectfully disagree with seeking. I myself have grappled with the notion that forgiving means we must forget. I have talked about it with my T and with my pastor and they've both expressed that we DO NOT have to forget in order to forgive. They said that the way we take care of ourselves is to remember. It's often those who believe they must forget who find themselves in co-dependent relationships or hurt over and over again by the same people.

I'm certainly NOT trying to tell you what to do in this situation. Only that you need to take care of yourself as well. And that forgiving your husband does not mean that you have to forget his mistakes and continue to "take it." You have to help you and he has to help himself.