Could you wear headphones and play some pleasant music while you are doing her care?

Sometimes people cannot have their wish of dying at home.
It is just way too much for the caretaker to take on.
If she was well she probably wouldn't want anyone to have to be over burdened with this.
Please check on a skilled care facility.........maybe they would take Medicade?

I had my mother with Alzheimers with me but I finally could not do it anymore.
The nurses at the facility were very caring and she was better off.