Well I'm a woman and straight and when I was 21 I'd have agreed wholeheartedly with you. Then the drinking got to be a problem plus I went on meds you aren't supposed to drink on so.....

Only difference is I started going to bars when I was 17 so it only took until I was about 23 or so to outgrow the drinking and partying.

My gauge was it wasn't a problem until it started interfering with work and causing me personal problems such as blacking out and not remembering where I left my car or where my clothes were or where I was what I had said to offend whom etc...