>>if we're smart enough in our choices, i.e., put a little bit of brain into the equation.

That's what I was poking at On the flipside if you are too careful you could miss out. I think you have to be prepared to be hurt a little bit and take some risk in order to find happiness. Maybe it isn't even living if there isn't some risk-taking involved in finding love.

I've always been a very trusting person and it has often hurt me but I've always been aware that that is the risk and have been willing to take that risk. This mostly in regard to friendships and that kind of trust and love.

But I've only recently realized that with regard to romantic love I am exactly the opposite, I don't trust myself enough to put myself out there and that has really hurt me. That's was I've been trying to work on by going out dancing on the weekends. I'm not looking to find someone there, I'm just making an effort to not keep myself shut away from possibilities.