hurting people's feelings, by saying the "wrong" thing IRL? I do, and online too sometimes, it's "safer" sending

At school and later, I did find many of the "girls" to be "*****y" I guess... I was trying to explain this, and why I avoid people so much, to a T... Their reply that I was "*****y" wasn't particularly helpful..... I wasn't one of the "assholes" at school or anywhere who looked down on others. Nor was I a "bully".. So much for "free association" I should have only spoken in growls.