Sounds like a horrendous ordeal. It would seem justifiable to demand help from your daughter and her boyfriend. Grown children truly have an obligation to behave as adults and contribute to their living arrangements. After all, there's no home if bills aren't payed.

It's very stressful raising children with special needs. Was there a guardian ad litem involved? I find that often times the family probate court system isn't fully able to see the bigger picture. Maybe the child support being in arrears contributed? How did your son wind up with your ex, initially?

As far as dealing with the ensuing depression, could reaching out to the Coping with Emotions Forum, regarding specific emotions help? Could learn how others have implemented coping skills or at least, gain supportive ears.