I agree that you are susceptible to story-tellers. In a sense, you sought one out while you were seeing this t, and replaced this t's (former) good judgment with that of the story-teller's.

I would disregard her recommendation and not worry about her feelings about it. It sounds hostile to me.

At work, one way to get promoted if you were a slacker was for your boss to give you a good recommendation so he could then get rid of you, then you became the next boss's problem. If you disregarded her advice about your friend, what is she going to tell the next t? "Youll love working with yearning - she disregarded everything i said?" Find your own next t and try to learn from your mistakes. Im sorry if this sounds harsh, but there is SOME sense in it, i think. There is definitely caring

Eta - it is sounding messy and i dont like messy stuff!.