I married my high school sweetheart. Got together when I was 15, married at 23. Divorced at 30.

He didn't get a full time job until just before we got married. Some of that time he was in college, but there was a long period where he had dropped out and wasn't working. He had employment issues after that (largely due to untreated ADD & drinking/partying issues). The straw that broke the camel's back was a period of over 2 years of unemployment just before our divorce. Mind you, he did not compensate for his unemployment by stepping up in the household or anything. He spent most of his waking hours playing video games or going out to bars with friends.

I dated him and married him because I loved him, pure and simple. I cared about who he was as a person. I didn't care whether or not he had a job. Until I did. Until it became too stressful to support the two of us on my grad student's stipend and moonlighting as an adjunct, resenting him for all the extra work I took on. And eventually I realized that love wasn't as simple or easy as I thought it was when I was younger, and that you can love someone but not be able to have a happy life with them.

So it doesn't match your situation in some ways. But I dated someone who couldn't reliably support himself, and I eventually ended it. At this point, I would not date someone who couldn't reliably support himself.

Not interested in having someone support me, either. I can pull my own weight on that front. For what that's worrh.