You never answered about whether either or both of you are of a different culture even though you live in California...All that that just means that you don't live in a different country. His values & your reactions both come across as coming from a different cultural background. Also, the tenses that you use in writing here comes across as someone who's native language isn't english. Also, different cultures, the man feels like it is his responsibility to provide the house.....we don't know what you might have told him in the past about the kind of house you want to live in or what kind of house you don't want to live in. It's obvious that your parents have money or they couldn't pay for all your schooling & your apartment through your masters. It could be that he felt the requirement to provide you a home that you were used to living in with your family (before the apartment)....could be that somewhere along the line he heard you possibly say...I wouldn't want to live in a house like that.....so this is what he felt pressured to pick out for you....also just curious....how naive you could be to think that he bought the house & you were living in it & you never signed anything for the loan.....how could you think that you were on the house when you never even signed anything for it.....I read everything that is put in front of me & I know what every piece of paper I sign is for.... It's like you are so used to people taking care of you that you have NO IDEA what the real world is like. There may be some validity in the things that your H does have to say.....but neither of you are approaching your marriage in a mature way.

So he was getting a free place to stay in your apartment while your parents paid for it for 4 years until you got married?

It's more than just not cooking every day......all this started AFTER you got married...not just a few months ago.....also seems that he has different expectations from a wife than of a live in GF?.