What part dont you understand? I mean you substitute other peoples judgment for your own. You give them your power. Do you want their love in return? I dont understand why you care NOW about your ts feelings, when didnt she advise you against getting so involved with A? If you didnt care about her feelings then, why do you care about them now? Im not trying to be obnoxious, i am asking seriously, why are you so focused on your ts feelings? Esp now that the relationship is ending? I think there is important information there.