This thread may be a reflection of sentiments shared by women in the greater population. I am bothered that it may imply that it is futile for a disabled man, who can support himself, but not his future spouse, to pursue a romantic relationship. I am an optimist plus I have witnessed this scenario work in real life.

True Love Story

I have a good friend who has been afflicted with Multiple Sclerosis for over 20 years. Before it became debilitating, he was working and able to take care of himself. As the illness progressed, he had to go on disability. Well, he managed to meet and marry the woman of his dreams. She is madly in love with him and although she is the primary bread winner (he does receive disability and makes a bit extra repairing computers out of their home), they have made it work for 20 years. In addition, the MS zaps my friends strength many times so he is not able to be physically active for prolonged periods. Yet, they have three beautiful, well adjusted healthy boys (one just left for the military). I am not saying everything is perfect - they both have their struggles. I honestly know that their bond is strengthen by all that they have experienced in this unconventional but quite successful relationship. Their home is overflowing with love that has touched so many in their community and beyond. In spite of the odds stacked up against them, their marriage has outlasted those of several conventional pairs I know. Poor planning coupled with sudden financial instability can cause a marriage to fail. My friends entered their marriage aware of potential financial struggles and planned accordingly. As a stay at home dad, they did not need to pay for daycare when the boys were younger.

I do envy my friends for what they have and, though highly unlikely for me personally, the hopeless romantic deep inside wants this for everyone and anyone who is willing to love and allow themselves to be loved. So be encouraged that your disability does not disqualify you from having your own love story.. As a person of faith in God, this is one of those areas that I would pray for wisdom, peace, and opportunity. If you are not, maybe get someone who is to pray on your behalf. I do believe that love does conquer all things. To your much deserved happiness.