I think you have analyzed the possible downside of seeing this therapist very maturely. I don't think your gut feeling that this isn't the best therapist for you is probably valid. You're not under any obligation to see this therapist, even for a "consult". The suggestion made from another poster about asking your therapist for at least one other possible referral; might be good to ask for two more referrals so you have some wiggle room. You are not going to hurt your therapist's feelings if you don't choose the person she thinks is the best fit for you. No one and I mean NO ONE knows you and what you need better than you. It is not disrespecting your current therapist if you decide on another therapist. It will work out. Just do some consults, you have some good instincts about what you need--trust those instincts!