You are seeking, which is a great start. I hear that telling our own story in response to yours is not the most effective way of helping, but maybe this will be useful. I have had a husband who many times gave me the silent treatment and then came back and wanted things to go back to how they were. After 9 years of marriage, I could see he needed help but wouldn't get it. My now ex-husband seems to struggle with bi-polar (it is in the family) but will not admit it. It is sad. He has a great personality and can be kind, but when his mood swings hit he is very hurtful with his words and deeds. I wanted to stay but couldn't since he wasn't open to addressing the problem. I left to take better care of myself and my son. I must still interact with him since we have a child but have learned not to take any of his more hurtful behavior personally, although it is hard because he rarely apologizes or acknowledges his behavior when he is "off". Hope that helps.