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Old Apr 28, 2015, 04:09 PM
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What do you think, is this something that you've experienced, did you like it, do you feel it's needed, or are you against it?

I think for people who experienced difficult childhoods this is necessary. To try to heal those wounds. But then again, how can you go back in time, and how is therapy like childhood environment? Years ago I "accidentally" called one of my therapists "mom" a few different times. Each time I was embarrassed so much, especially because the woman was quite young and I thought she might be offended, not to mention the humiliation of a guy in his 20s calling a stranger mom.

But she did not react at all any of those times, never followed up on it, to the point that later I started to doubt my memory. I also felt more embarrassed, thinking she thoughts those slips for so bad she'd never want to point them out. But I had wondered later what if she could be my mom, what if it were possible she could fix the bad times in past, maybe then I would not be so anxious about being rejected or abandoned, having trust issues. I mean of course not all of it goes back to mom, there is some related to dad and some just me being neurotic myself, personality wise and experiences in the outside world shaping that. But still, I been thinking about this again now, but maybe this is more fantasy on my part.

But for some weird reason it reminds me of The Great Gatsby, where in a very different context (of romance), this happens:

"I wouldn’t ask too much of her," I [I is the narrator, Nick] ventured. "You can’t repeat the past."
"Can’t repeat the past?" he [he is Gatsby, who wants a woman - whom he was in love with years ago when he was poor - Daisy, who is now married ] cried incredulously.
"Why of course you can!"
He looked around him wildly, as if the past were lurking here in the shadow of his house, just out of reach of his hand....
Thanks for this!
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