I went initially to try to deal with the grief over the loss of a child. I had a lot of issues other than that, but I just wanted to figure out how to go on and function at that time. He was not helpful at all with the grief, but we started working on other issues and I got sucked in to "me, me, me, my pain, my past, ME, and it really hurt me in the long run. Pain in relationships is normal and natural and happens, but not this type of pain. I never want to experience anything like that again. I guess I just want to not be severely harmed in therapy.