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Originally Posted by junkDNA
dear T
thank you for saying even though i used to be a pain in the *** that i was a lovable pain the ***. ive been wondering if i was too out of control for you then. i know there were some times you questioned whether i needed some other type of care, like a different T or different treatment program. so it makes me feel good that even though i was acting out and being difficult you still enjoyed me, at least some of the time.  
me |
That reminds me of one of the bestest things my t ever said to me - after I was being particularly trying one day - she said "You can be an argumentative pain in the ***." It was just the way she said "you CAN be", not that I AM one, made me really know that she sees more to me than that. That was HUGE for me. I grew up being told "You ARE lazy" as opposed to "You CAN be lazy" and "You ARE so immature" instead of "You are ACTING immature." Big difference when you're a kid and t somehow knew exactly how to phrase it when she said the pain in the *** comment. It was a turning point in my therapy for sure. I may not even be explaining it right. But thanks for reminding me of that moment.