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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
My T and I do not do re-parenting, but my relationship with her is definitely "maternal" and it is central to our work together. I don't have an inner child, we keep all of the traditional therapy boundariws in place, etc-- but I definitely feel as though my relationship with my T provides a kind of corrective experience for my childhood. My T isn't my mom, but she is probably the closest thing I have ever had to a "mom." She does say she loves me, she gives hugs, and she has discussed that, after therapy ends, I will be allowed to give her e-mail updates or schedule a one-off session when I am in town (we know I will be moving in the future). For me, this experience has been phenomenal.
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This resonates for me. My T isn't my mom or trying to be my mom. But she IS the closest thing to a loving parent I am ever going to get. My in-lwas are nice people but they are very religious and aren't fully accepting of their own gay daughter, never mind ME. It close and for me it's working. My friends my age ( 40) still text or call their Mom or Dad when things are going poorly at work or they have a decision to make or are ill or injured. I have my T. After I broke my leg I texted my partner, then my best friend ( the two people stuck with driving me aroubd, etc
) and then my T. It works for me.