What about writing a letter to him with as much as you can handle having him know. You could chose to be present or not as he reads it. SI is a way to cope with things we can't cope with cos we don't have the skills. I believe being able to talk about the things that trigger us is one way to cope with them. Although this young man may not be the best person to confide your pain to, it may be that you can start with him.

I have only shared with a very few people other than my therapist that I SI. I find it hard to talk about too.

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