I agree, Pat, it IS a lot of work! When I was dating, I spent considerable time getting ready or even planning getting ready for time together! As I look back on it now, it exhausts me just thinking about it! At the same time, if you already have a fella, you two must already know each others' quirks and needs for space, which is a good stage at which to arrive...not so much time in trying to get to know someone, impress, etc!
Love,
Patty