The fact that you have other diagnoses makes me wonder if there's something else going on. It sounds a bit like Limerence (Limerence - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia), but there are aspects of what you've described that make me uncertain. It seems like you have a desire for physical connection, especially as you get drunk which isn't always present with Limerence... but it can be.

I can't tell if you primarily want the other person to be happy or if you want to make them happy. There's a pretty big difference between those two things and the latter is gratitude-seeking behavior that is unfortunately, not good for either of you. You'll have to be really honest with yourself here, it can be tough to separate those. If you additionally have pervasive worries about them not being right for you or you not being right for them in the context of preserving their overall happiness then you may not be Limerant.

If you feel like Limerence is what's going on here, there are ways to combat it:
Limerence, love addiction, infatuation & affair recovery support - What treatment is there?

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I've personally gone through something I guess semi-related but not quite the same which I'll add too in case it rings of truth. I very rarely feel a *spark* with people, but when I do I pretty quickly develop a crush or if it's with a male friend - a sort of bromance feeling where I just want to hang out and talk with them all the time. I'll become receptive to someone and then it's like I feed off of that person's energy and it amplifies in me. If it's a crush, that crush ends up causing such intense feelings in me that I don't know how to parse them. My brain tries to make rational sense of them by framing them in concepts of love, infatuation, etc. The more I think of them in that context the more my brain dumps neurotransmitters all over like it's spiking the punch bowl of my life haha. It compounds itself until it reaches a fever pitch where that's all I'm thinking about and I start emotionally breaking down until I attempt to act on it or find some strong sign that the other person is not interested. If I spend time with this person, I just get so overstimulated that on the drive home I'll often be shaking and wound-up. Then, the next day I feel like I've run out of happiness, it's almost like a hangover or like my brain's dumped out everything it had to give and needs to make more serotonin, dopamine, etc.

In my scenario for a long time I didn't make the connection that this extends to other parts of my life. I get a similar physical reaction and strong feeling of overstimulation from parties, groups, or conversations where I have a great time. I get it from life or environment change which leads to overwhelming anxiety. I get it from work stress sometimes. If you find yourself feeling like this matches with some of your experience you may be this:

Highly sensitive person - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

There's a lot more information out there about it.


There definitely could be something totally different than those two things going on, but I wanted to share them in case they help since I totally understand the intensity of emotion that comes with infatuation like that. It has happened to me a half-dozen times or so in my life and ruined potential relationships or made it very difficult to live a pleasant life while it's occurring. Best of luck...