For myself I don't really ever take into account someone else's feelings or perspective. I usually see things one way and with that doesn't allow me to see what's happening to the person I may be affecting. It's more or less about getting my point across and not so much the way I make it. Lately though if it is pointed out to me (by my wife) that my ways aren't right I can then take a moment to reflect and only then may I see what I did was not the best way. I suppose if one who has NPF and is unaware as I once was it is normal for us to not see the impact we have on others. Even if tears are shown it really makes no difference which I guess is what they speak of with lack of empathy.