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Old Apr 29, 2015, 05:46 PM
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Originally Posted by Yearning0723 View Post
I think my biggest hesitation is that during the consult, she might readily agree that repressed memories or whatever aren't my problem, but then once she gets to know me better she might change her mind and spring it on me and not accept no for an answer, because obviously the very nature of a repressed memory precludes your awareness of it...
Sounds like too much guesswork for me..predicting and anticipating what she might do long time down the road while not even having seen her or talked to her once..

Regardless of what might or might not happen, make it clear what you want and what you don't want and see how she responds. In this current situation when very little is scientifically confirmed about what therapy methods are effective or reality based or not, therapists are granted the right to practice according to their beliefs. She has the right to believe whatever she believes and to practice from that philosophy. You have the right not to subscribe to it. Her approach to work has to be discussed very directly upfront. What she says to you and how she discusses it would show you clearly if she is the right therapist for you.

If she is ethical she will respect your needs but she won't give you any promises as to how she will work without getting to know you and without thoroughly understanding your case. That means that it might be possible that she might suggest that you were sexually abused at some point in the future, and if you don't want to take that risk at all, then don't see her.

For honest and ethical work to take place in therapy, there has to me an agreement maintained between T and client about what they are doing and how they want to do it. This agreement has to be completely voluntary, completely overt and fully conscious. It cannot be forced on any party whether explicitly or implicitly and each party can opt out of it any time.
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