I like that you said this, stopdog. Why? Because I really feel that none of us or at least most of us, EVER embody the virtue that we put forth. The "wise" ones learn to present the behavior/affect that is acceptable and "okay". Others who struggle, are overwhelmed, confused, disconnected etc, fail the "normal" test. That's why I don't think that therapists are alone in this behavior. I think that western civilization is rampant with this kind of thinking . .. heck. many Asian, European, African . . . world thinking mimics this kind of thinking. We want people to present or act in a certain way and if they don't, then they are abnormal and in need of "adjustment". In western society, that means medication and/or hospitalization/imprisonment. In other countries it can mean even worse--isolation, medication, torture, and prison. Not a good thing in any country/nation! As much as I hate mental health services in the U.S., I have to admit that after looking at what is/is not available in other countries, we have to consider ourselves pretty lucky . . .not that things don't have to change BIG time!