That is an excellent attitude to have. It reflects your good mental health. Wish him well and move on. He'll have his father to turn to; he can make the most of that support.


If you do leave that house, be careful about meeting with him alone. If he projects a lot of anger, then it would be appropriate to have a parent or a friend with you. The police are very good about being willing to stand by, if you need to return to the house to remove posessions. If he makes any unlawful threats towards you, tell your lawyer, who will probably advise you to file a police report.


It takes time to know someone. See how long it took for you to realize that your husband is seriously troubled. Of course, you're not 18 now. You'll have more discrimination in assessing people that you meet. Our legal system says people are innocent till proven guilty. When it comes to prospective boyfriends, you need the opposite mindset. Assume that anyone you meet has their share of problems that could wreck your life. It's up to them to demonstrate that they are worth getting involved with. Never give some guy a key to your apartment because you enjoyed a few pleasant nights with him. It is very lonely being in an apartment by yourself. Consider sharing a place with other singles. Staying with your friend is a good first step.