I honestly think seeya, you need to start standing on your own two feet & learn how to be independent & to take care of yourself. You went from living with your parents to college where your parents paid for everything & then into marriage where you totally blindly trusted your H just like you were able to blindly trust your parents but a marriage ISN'T a parent child relationship...it's a total partnership & I found out the hard way that you need to be equally capable & equally knowledgeable about EVERYTHING that goes on in the marriage.....that's what being a partner is. Yes, it's being able to handle everything at times if the other partner is not able to but that needs to be a short season of life, not a permanent condition.

The only thing you seem to know right now is school, & coaching & even what you do at work, the presentation, you sounded like you were having self-confidence issues.....but you are young so it's understandable. However your self-confidence only grows when you start to take over your life & start to be in your own control of it & stop being dependent on everyone else around you.

From my years of experience, & observing, when we learn how to be independent & learn to take care of ourselves & learn to really KNOW who we are....only then are we ready to bring someone else into our lives. You learn to read people while you are learning to be independent.

Did something change from the lined up place you have to stay if you need it?......Honestly I would get out if you want out & have no intention of staying in the marriage.....I lived separated under the same roof for almost 13 years & it was the most miserable time of my life.....even a couple of months in that situation is miserable & definitely not a comfortable situation to be in.

so you KNOW what you signed.....you don't need a lawyer to tell you what it is or what it means.....The only form that waives your rights to the property is a quitclaim......if that's what your copy shows you signed than in reality, you have nothing that you need to do other than get a divorce.....or maybe you could even get an annulment since you haven't been married that long & there are really NO ASSETS involved in your marriage & NO KIDS.....that might be an option that would make the getting out of the marriage a lot easier for you.

I know that with my divorce, my lawyer wrote up that quitclaims needed to be signed....but we both already did that & the records are on file.....so if that's what you already signed......if not.....then you do need to know what paperwork you really did sign. Since you have a copy of it, you are not incapable of knowing what you really did sign NOW. You sort of missed my point that I was trying to make...you seem to still be trusting everything your H tells you....even to the fact of what you signed was something that took your rights to the house away from you....do YOU REALLY KNOW THIS FOR YOURSELF?....look at the copy & see what it is that you really did sign......YOU need to start being KNOWLEDGEABLE about YOUR life & what you do & stop being so dependent on everyone else around you to carry you along.

Honestly in this economy, you are better off NOT being on the house because values are known to go down & houses can turn upside down very quickly.....then YOU would NOT be gaining anything but end up owing on the debt in order to split up the house......you are definitely better off NOT having anything to do with it.....it was his choice to do what he did....let him deal with the consequences & probable loss the house will end up in....the quitclaim would be something needed in the divorce/annulment anyway so if that's what you already signed, that's one less thing that needs to be included in the divorce paperwork.