Yeah, it's not a strenght. Perhaps, my avoidance saved me lots of problems in the past. But this is for sure a lose-lose situation.

This strenght I mention can be my borderline traits. You know too much sensitiveness, impulsiviness, wrong thinking patters...I think that I was making me a favour and others in avoiding but I don't want to be an avoidant anymore.
Life, people are too much marvellous for me to lose them.

I need to manage this strenght to take something good from it.

Thanks for you reply!