How do you get over/ cope with intense abandonment feelings, both in therapy and real life?

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I'm struggling with it on both parts. I've been doing it for my entire life as result of attachment and when abandonment feelings get super intense I tend to SI. I think about it all the time. So I would like to know how others cope and find ways to feel better or at least find something to hold on to.
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