Sorry you have to change T because of insurance. I can perceive it sucks.
I have no idea about the insurance stuff, I leave it to competent people.
However, you already have two criteria for choosing your new T :
- female
- your age or older.
By telling what worked with your T in your first message, you are on the good path to answer your own question
These elements can be incorporated into your criteria of choice for a T
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I always prefer psychodynamic T's. Maybe you have a preference, too.
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Preferring a T from one specific schooling is one thing.
OTOH, IME and IMO, you need a T open to different theoretical backgrounds, even if said T prefers a specific schooling over another.
IME with Ts from different therapeutic schoolings, a T stuck in his own schooling is counterproductove. Such rigidity fosters client blaming when therapy works for a specific issue but not for another issue. Therefore, I am wary of Ts unable to open their mind on different schoolings.
Where I live, Ts often work with the mindset of "winning the schooling war to prove how efficient my schooling is over the others" : if a different schooling works better for client X with issue Y, Ts often try to convince client that only their therapeutic schooling is the right one.
It may be a cultural thing that doesn't apply to OP.
However, I noticed that Ts stuck in their own schooling is not often discussed here.
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while training is important, fit is more important. I would see a LCSW, etc. if we got along and I thought she could help.
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Couldn't say better.
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I will not stay with a T who insists I do this or that. If we disagree, my expectation is that T helps me explore these issues. But I have final say.
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I add that a T who treats any kind of disagreement as if it was a sign of mental illness has nothing to do with therapy. IME and IMO, major red flag of incompetent therapist, no matter how experienced, the prestigious university etc...
If some disagreements are signs of MI acting out, not every disagreement by a client is MI acting out ! T blaming every kind of disagreement on client's MI has everything to do with T's laziness and nothing to do with client's best interests.
A therapist is not a Court-appointed conservator and a client is not a T's conservatee. Any therapist acting as if the client was T's conservatee means therapy is doomed to fail right off the bat.
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Next, I figure out if she is a good fit
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Actually, the most important ingredient of successful therapy