Thank you, BayBrony! You're right. I don't want to have sex with my T, and I do remember my teenage crushes on both men and women. I didn't know much about sex (things were different in my time and environment) yet all I did was daydream about these people! In fact, T and I HAVE talked about the part of me who has a teenage crush on her. The adult part of me gets in the way. That's interesting. I can ask T if we can do IFS with the teenager and separate her from the adult who feels ashamed. I think that might help.