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Apr 30, 2015, 01:00 PM
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Member Since: Feb 2015
Location: Eastern US
Posts: 472
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Originally Posted by kirby777
Hi-
Due to insurance, I have to find a new T.  I liked my previous T & knew she cared for me. I trusted her, which is difficult due to childhood trauma related to a mother issue/emotional abuse neglect. She also was one of of the few whom would call me on things...which I need. Or listen as I told my tales of woe and would say, close to the end of the session."If it was me, I would not do "whatever' any more, if it did not make me happy". I need to hear that.
I have spent years regurtitating my past hurts & am sick of it. There are no results....The last T did help me alter some of what I wanted to change.
How do I choose a new one? I know whether we click after the first 2 sessions..I know I need a female close to my age or older.
Any advice would be most appreciated. |
You already listed a couple things - you know you need a female close to your age or older, you know you need someone who will call you out on things. Can you make a list of things you need? And then set up some trial consultations? Most therapists will offer a free 30 min consultation either in person or on the phone. And bring your list. And don't be afraid to ask questions about things that are important to you. For example for me; it's really important what type of therapy is done, how suicidal ideation would be handled if that were to become an issue, contact outside of sessions if necessary, how would it be handled if (God forbid) I would have to be admitted, I'm fairly straight forward and direct so my therapist has to be as well, I also have to have someone who will call me on my **** or else I'll just BS them all day long etc. So, I guess what I'm trying to say is, figure out what's important to you, and try to find someone who fits those needs as closely as possible.
I also think it's partially a "gut" response. Who "feels" right, who do you click with, who do you feel comfortable with?
In my opinion it's a combination of the two. It's a hard decision to make. I'm sorry you have to go through that. Good luck.
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