Tweaky, some things are just out of our control. You're understandably having a tough time but I'm sure you're doing the best you can under the circumstances. People said cruel things to me after I caused unjust harm to them while under psychosis, and I hated myself for it. But, after time, I realized it wasn't me, it was a shadowy reflection of me. I couldn't control my behavior or thoughts because I was out of control, out of self-control.

The man who said that to you is not one to judge, because he doesn't understand, nor is able to enter into an empathetic relationship with you. Simply put, he is your typical, average person who goes through life judging events as if he had the resources to make final, categorical judgments.