I'm going to jump in here and disagree. If he is watching snuff films (of people getting murdered) in order to get sexual kicks, rape films of people being sexually assaulted and violated and possibly left with years of emotional trauma, then he *IS* the one with issues and he is contributing to the pain and death of others by downloading and watching these videos; creating a part of the market.

There is nothing wrong with *consensual, adult, fully informed* BDSM. However, snuff, rape, toilet; these are all degrading, disempowering, possibly harmful, possibly causing death. That is NOT BDSM. That is sickness. With my apologies to the above posters, I take offense to this being called healthy.

He needs help. He *is* the one with a problem. LittlePoppy, you are right to be concerned. I would suggest counseling for both of you. If he is a sex addict, then while it seems unthinkable, it can spiral down further and further until he *is* doing things he couldn't have found imaginable to do a year or ten earlier. I'm pretty sure that there was a time he would have found the idea of watching someone die on camera and getting off on it to be repugnant, and now it's a norm. This *can* spiral (I am not saying it will, but it can.) Please find help for both of you.