I reread all thru this. Imo, this is more complicated than this t has the experience or the male body parts to handle, pardon my french. He's bullying you to keep you from talking about stuff?? Apparently hes a legend in his own mind, as my t likes to say i would use this as an opportunity to switch ts at this point. His stuff is getting mixed up with your stuff and its a bit of a mess. Thats my feeling.