I am in a very similar bind, Lostdeepinspace! I am in a relationship and love my boyfriend, however from time to time I find my mind wandering and thinking about "what could have been?" about this guy I almost dated (but never did) 5 years ago. We are still in communication almost weekly and every time we talk I feel a little tinge of something that is weird and not sure how to describe it. I have classifed him as a "special" friend as I can't quite put it into words. I have thought many times about completely ending conversations with him (since we live across the country anyways) and I have at times in the past few years but after a while I get curious about what's new in his life and message him back. I have thought many times about whether this could be considered an unfaithful action towards my boyfriend but I made up my mind that it's not - I am not at all considering breaking up with my boyfriend, I am just simply interested in what's going on in his life. Do you kinda feel the same way or are your feelings toward that guy more romantic - as in would you consider breaking up with your boyfriend for him if you had the chance? Is there something particular that is going on in your relationship that may be causing you to think about that guy in the past?