What are some of the signs that it's time to leave your therapist? I don't want to go into a lot of detail. I'm worried of everyone's opinions on how my T. has reacted. I will say that tonight she suggested spacing my sessions out to every two weeks and I did not handle it well.

I have maternal transference and haven't started working on grieving my mom who died a year ago in May. I am extremely hurt and told her so. I think she feels it may lessen the transference and get me to focus more on my mom.

Throughout our relationship I have had a hard time seeing the care/love/concern and never knew if it was due to the transference. We have similar personalities and her temperament is direct. I know I can't handle a mushy T. but I'm worried the transference is too painful. In no way has she suggested I move on but she said she always has to keep in mind what is best for me.

Leaving her will absolutely break my heart. When I'm mad, I am ready to move on. When I think about leaving, I fall to pieces. We are supposed to discuss it more Monday. I've already contact a T. friend who is willing to meet with me and assess the situation to see what I should do.

I can't trust my gut - it switches back and forth constantly. I'm worried I'm pushing her away like I did my mom. "you won't treat me right then forget you". Please be gentle.