Wow -I think the writer of this one is off base from the beginning "— one person in need, and the other person who is there to act as a wise guide, teacher, and supporter through a process of change....Most therapists are pretty good at what they do. "

I think perhaps it might be useful if you could try a few appointments with some others and see how they feel to you? It would seem off to not be focussing on your mother but the therapist and it might be that trying out other ones could show different atmospheres. I found that quite useful. I see two psychodynamic ones - but they are light night and day from each other.