Not much in a marriage is ever one person's fault. Without talking to him it's hard to figure out entirely what the problem is but my inclination is to believe there is a lot more to this than paying bills. The more telling thing is that he feels like a "father" instead of a husband. That speaks volumes about how he feels in the relationship. what I see just from your first post is this. You mentioned you have no family, friends in the area where you two live. Why is that? This to me seems to imply that it's quite possible that you're very dependent on him and possibly to the point where he's felt he's become a father, not a husband to you. The fact that you mention that he pays for the house, so it's "his" says something to the fact that you're quite a submissive person too and kind of put yourself in a role to be a subordinate rather than wife. you seem to dethrone yourself of the equal place by his side and by your words, I think the way you see yourself in the relationship isn't that of an equal to him at all.. Granted, if he's not ever told you these things, it's not entirely your fault either. If he's let it stew to the point that he feels he needs time away from you it also says that he's been too silent about things bothering him for longer than you know, that, is his part in this. He should have communicated with you all along about everything and he hasn't.