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Originally Posted by stopdog
The problem I see with this is that if the client knew how to do this - they more than likely would. I think it is a therapist's responsibility to help the client through this sort of thing. They set the game up so that this reaction can likely, if not in all cases will, occur. They cannot then just blame the client for it happening, ignore it and hope it or the client goes away etc. The therapist does have responsibility to assist the client when this sort of thing occurs.
Otherwise it would be like the Bob Newhart skit where he just yells "stop it" at the client.
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Not true (and I speak from personal experience). A client may know how to do it, may talk about doing it, may even believe they're doing it, but actually doing it for reals, not so much. There's a really simple reason for it too: it HURTS LIKE HELL!!
We are programmed to avoid pain, but this involves literally walking straight into it with eyes wide open. It is a very painful, (shameful) thing to admit out loud that it is our own patterns , our own beliefs, our own doing that is causing is all this pain.
We want -
I want my T to take my pain away, to make it all better, but he can't do that. He's only a man after all, he doesn't have to power to help me, only I have that. He can show me the path, but I have to walk it. If I refuse to walk it because I am too scared, too ashamed, too little, then there's nothing he can do for me.