Hey guys! I know this is quite an old thread. Just wanted to tie up some loose ends.

I guess what I want to say is - I'm finally over her. I'm happy again for the first time in years. I've had some great ideas for what I want to do in my future as an occupation and I have regained my once lost dream of having a family of my own one day.

I was reading my very first post in the thread and wow, it sounds like another guy completely!

I think I'll carry the scars of depression forever, but it's not so bad because those scars are present in the form of new-found wisdom.

I think for all the guys who are struggling with lost loves and relationships - I think the best thing to do is forget everything you know and think you know. It is simply a matter of a man and woman's paths intersecting at the right points. If a relationship didn't work out, it is either the two paths don't intersect right now at this moment in time, or they are just not meant to intersect. There is nothing wrong with you as a man, and there is nothing wrong with the women either. There is simply a set of attributes to each path which either makes them meet or not, and this thing can be time dependent too, as attributes can change with time. So to any lost-feeling guys reading - don't sweat it!

All the best!