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Old May 01, 2015, 03:23 PM
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Originally Posted by JustShakey View Post
Not true (and I speak from personal experience). A client may know how to do it, may talk about doing it, may even believe they're doing it, but actually doing it for reals, not so much. There's a really simple reason for it too: it HURTS LIKE HELL!!
We are programmed to avoid pain, but this involves literally walking straight into it with eyes wide open. It is a very painful, (shameful) thing to admit out loud that it is our own patterns , our own beliefs, our own doing that is causing is all this pain.
We want - I want my T to take my pain away, to make it all better, but he can't do that. He's only a man after all, he doesn't have to power to help me, only I have that. He can show me the path, but I have to walk it. If I refuse to walk it because I am too scared, too ashamed, too little, then there's nothing he can do for me.
I understand you and I will never agree on most of this.
Of course, I actually don't understand wanting a therapist to take pain away. I would not let them do it even if they could (I do know they can't) - I do not want that from them at all. A lot at all. Completely at all I don't want that from a therapist.
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