Maybe irrelevant and again he is a jerk but why do you need to ask for help with the laundry? What's there to help with, not like you need to carry it to the river. Unless two of you decided that you both do Laundry or he is supposed to do it and he stopped doing it. Have you ever discussed who does what around the house? Labor division? Seems like you never discussed anything and just went with the flow.

He sounds crazy but usually partner who doesn't work or work little does more work around the house. You said you quit your full time job, so perhaps in his mind you would more chores? Did you two discuss it? You said he wanted you to quit job and you did so maybe he think you always do what he says?

Again total lack of communication and not even knowing what's the other person wants!

That's why some of us thought you come from a different culture as he is totally dominant and taking care of everything and you were ok with it until he snapped and it went downhill!

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