Wisewoman, I think it's more common than either of us think it is. People don't talk about it as easily, for some reason. But in a group I was in one time (I lasted 3 sessions, it was horrible, and I will never do group again! -- it was even worthless in the hospital), when I introduced myself and told why I was there, in a group of about 10 people THREE of them came up to me afterward and said they had been abused by their moms. It was a group of all women, too.

I feel kind of "weird" too because it doesn't seem like there are too many of us out there, but I think it's because there's some stigma to admitting that the person who actually gave birth to you and was supposed to take care of you, hurt you instead. Everyone wants to think of moms as June Cleaver or Donna Reed or something, and it just ain't so.

I feel REALLY weird because the abuse I got from my mom isn't something you usually associate with women. (I am going to trigger MYSELF, much less anybody else, if I spill it, so I'm shutting up.) But please don't feel alone.

Candy