1. I never thought that I was special. Although, whether its personal life or professional I usually end up fighting with people coz I get no respect or people didnt include me in a project when I deserved to.

I've always thought of myself as special, unique, different, and superior.

Though I will say I have picked arguments when I think I'm not getting the respect I deserve... Ah, entitlement...

2. I also blamed psychiatrists/psychologists (I still think Im right in some ways) for there improper management of patients and/or the session itself.

Me too. I think psychiatrists/psychologists are for the most part intellectually inferior and undeserving of the title "professional". They have caused me a hell of a lot of frustration.

3. I never was stimulated by any woman so much so that I chase after her and/or hope for a date and actually go through it.

Maybe you're gay? Okay I'm totally kidding, but seriously I can't help you there.

4. In past 2 yrs, this is my third job. I blamed the mgmt and the team members (rightfully so). They never included me in any project work and when I tried they ran away or made some excuse so that they can keep their assignments and regular work to themselves while I struggled sitting alone. I never completed any appraisal cycle coz I presumed that since I havent done much work in the year what will the mgmt appraise me for. I talked to the mgmt and they just make me handle those situations.

I always blame people when they are not working up to my standards and being inefficient overall. I am a natural born leader, I always have been. People admire me because I am highly efficient, charismatic, and successful.

5. My blood boils bcoz of inefficiency of people, the govt etc. I have very strong opinions and likes/dislikes.

Ditto, I am naturally a very judgmental person. If I see someone being blatantly inefficient I always call them on it. I have strong opinions as well and I am unafraid to voice them, if people don't like it they can shove it.

Am I a narcissist? Its said that some narcissists do make great leaders. What can I do to turn this hostile nature into a leadership quality?

If you want a real answer, see a competent professional(they are rare, but they exist). As to how to turn your hostility into a leadership quality, that is something that can be worked through in therapy.