I would say that the way you were treated is a red flag warning sign. I think you need to really think about the kind of individual you are thinking of committing to. If a person is that drastic about not comforting you and instead resorts to kicking you out and telling you to not come back, then you really need to pay attention and evaluate going any further seriously. What you have just described is emotional abuse. Don't allow yourself to be with a person like that, it typically only gets even worse.