For me the connection with a T feels fundamental, the T needs to have relationship skills for this to happen. And the T needs to have some fundamental non judgemental attitude to life whereby they truly like people in general, are curious about them and consider that any way of being is ok. I think I put the curious bit in as my ex-T seemed to lack an interest in things I tried to say to her. I think she lacked this non judgemental attitude too, but I can't be sure.

I suppose knowledge of psychological theories is helpful too.

Any views?