I echo what most have already said here. The most important quality for me is a willingness to learn and to try and understand. The relationship between this t and I has been very healing and through it I have become more integrated because I am learning to accept all of me and to begin to learn how to be more authentic by expressing what I really feel and not by keeping it in and punishing myself.
I like a t to be real and to share their experiences with me. She also can usually admit when she makes a mistake which is very important for my process. I like a t to have empathy but to be able to put that aside enough not to let their emotions lead their reactions.
It is important to me for a t to give me hope when all i can see is black and white.