Hi folks,

One of the core tenets of our community is to offer supportive replies, rather than critical judgments about others' behavior. Judgments and criticism aren't much welcomed by anyone -- here or in real life. When you tell others "Well, this is how you should've acted," you're basically telling them they acted in a "wrong" way.

Life isn't so black and white where there's always one clear "right" way to act, and another "wrong" way.

Now, you're welcomed to your opinion. And you're welcomed to share it with others, if you feel in doing so will actually help another member better understand the situation or behavior (and is supportive).

But this is not a forum to make armchair diagnoses of other members, or to tell other members they acted "wrongly."

Please take note of this, because we'll start warning members privately if they don't follow my note here and act more supportively of other members in this forum.

Thanks for your cooperation.

DocJohn

PS - This is not the first time we've tried to address this issue (see A reminder about support & judgment here ).