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Originally Posted by lightcatcher
Hi rainydaiz!
I have built a strong attachment with my T over the last couple of years, often with a push pull attachment from me. I have PTSD and we are trying to work through life trauma and all that stuff. I've thought abit about the attachment and if it conflicts - maybe it's a personal thing? I couldn't imagine doing any of the work, sharing my story or anything with a T I wasn't attached to (attachment didn't come straight away, but there was something there from the beginning). For me, I think a lot of healing comes through the relationship. My T is caring and fantastic, with their own faults. But I trust my T, I am aware of my own inner stuff that tries to push and pull T away, and I think T is aware of their own stuff that I bring up.
I think, and it's just my opinion, attachment can be one of the best healing opportunities through trauma. However, it requires us to be honest and upfront about ourselves and what is going on for us in the relationship. Its ok for the child in you to want your T to soothe you, talk about that. Talk about what you would want from your T. You might not get it but at least it's out there.
Sorry I have no magic answers, good luck though  |
Firstly, thanks so much for taking the time to reply, I was beginning to get worried no-one would (triggering abandonment issues)! I agree with everything you said- it was helpful to hear it from someone else's point of view. I really agree that I wouldn't have managed to do half the work I have if I hadn't had the attachment to my t. It was useful to hear that you think attachment can help heal trauma. All the trauma work I am doing is fairly new to me. I know you might not have the magic answers (unfortunately I don't think there are any) but you have helped enormously through replying and letting me know what you think. I appreciate it.